What the Bible Says About Sex

Posted on July 1, 2012 by


And you, be fruitful and multiply, increase greatly on the earth and multiply in it. Genesis 9:7   ESV

Mission accomplished. The earth is full! I am not trying to make some kind of moral judgment here. It is a scientific fact that we have over populated this planet by 50%.  Our natural resources are being depleted at a record pace. We have always heard that growth is good because it adds jobs to the economy and we build wealth. This is no longer true with global over crowding. Every time the economy heats up, the cost of our natural resources (oil and food) go up, which in turn stifles the economy.

The population is exploding in undeveloped countries. The promiscuity that began in the sixties has now spread around the earth. As of October 30, 2011 there are 7 billion people on our planet.  This is very rapid growth considering there were only 2.5 billion people in 1950.  We are growing at about 30 million people per day. That is a lot of sex!

God is the one who introduced us to sex.  He makes this statement, be fruitful and multiply, several times in the beginning of the Bible. When God created Adam He used the first of four methods. The first one was by direct creation when He made Adam from the dust of the earth. The second one was by indirect creation when He took a rib from Adam and created Eve. For our purposes here the third one was divine creation when the Holy Spirit overshadowed Mary and Jesus Christ came to us through virgin birth. The fourth is by natural creation when a man and woman have sexual intercourse.

The nature of marriage was based on the relationship of  Jesus Christ, the Bridegroom, and the Church, the bride. Marriage was designed by God and was given to us for the creation of the family.   And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”  Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name.  So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh.  And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.  Then the man said,

“This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.”  Genesis 2: 18-23 ESV

Please imagine for a moment Adam standing there as God,  holding Eve by the hand, brings her to Adam and introduces them. Imagine what a beautiful moment that was when both of them made eye contact the first time, both falling instantly in love with each other. At that very instant both of them agreed in their heart that they could not live without each other ever again. Two halves became whole, two spirits became one. That is the foundation of marriage.

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 ESV

Finding  that wonderful person to be in our life is just the beginning. Being together and becoming one in body, mind and spirit is one of the greatest fulfillment’s in life.

The concept of marriage and the family today is lost. One hundred years ago you would have lived your entire life ten miles from where you were born. You would have met your future wife or husband when you were a child and grown up with each other, experiencing the same family values and traditions. In this complicated world today finding common ground between two people can be perplexing. We look for any small detail in which to relate. We live today often with separate check books, different daily routines and separate lives. We are truly a very lonely people. It amazes me how many couples I see at a restaurant  with their phones in their hands checking up on the game, the news or facebook. Most of us are so self absorbed we base our relationship decisions on satisfying our own self – interest. When those needs are not being met we change relationships, not ourselves. It appears to be that marriage is a temporary solution to accommodate the need of the day, focusing on what we can get out of the experience rather than what we can give to it.

God intended for us to be bound together. Two people becoming one mentally, physically and spiritually. The number for God is 3 , The Father, Son and Holy Spirit. The number for man is 6. Two people, a man and a woman combining their bodies, their minds and their spirits. So let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.  Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.  The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:1

This is God’s design for sex.  This is His design for a family.

The problem today is everyone is in a hurry. I am not sure why, but most people have sex before marriage.  When they do that they damage their relationship with their future wife or husband. We are not suppose to see a bunch of people naked because this gives us something to compare our spouse with and that my friend is not a good thing. That is reserved for our first love . This is why there is so much divorce in this world because we are never happy with what we have when we see something we like better. We are a world of wanting when we should be a world thankful for what we have.

Christ said if you choose to get married the only rightful reason for divorce is adultery.  However, God has given us liberty with this. He does not expect us to live miserable lives where we constantly argue and our home life is anything but loving.  I believe when you are in a relationship like this, you should separate from one another. That being said I believe that reconciliation is a very wonderful thing. Think of all the times we separated ourselves from God. Every single time He was there waiting to reconcile with us. We stomped out the door mad, turning our back on Him, blaming Him for our troubles. He never flinched. He stood there longing for reconciliation. When two Christians are married, there should be no divorce. Yet our divorce rate is the same as the secular world.

We are the light of the world, and God, from the beginning never intended for there to be divorce. However, our sinful nature causes it.

For those of us who have suffered divorce, please do not be alarmed. Just as divorce is a sin, so is stealing, killing and lying. We have a Savior who paid the price for all sin, and if we believe in our heart and admit to others that “Jesus Christ is the Son of God,” we are saved of our sin. If we repent from that sin we are forgiven.  When we become a Christian we surrender our mind, our soul, and our body to Jesus Christ. We can’t just give part of ourselves over to God. Doing so will only cause unhappiness in our heart. No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other.

You cannot serve God and mammon. Matthew 6:24

There is sin committed against others, and there is sin committed against ourselves. Fornication, or sex before marriage, and adultery, or sex with some person besides our wife or husband, are two of these sins. When we commit these sins the Bible tells us we have combined our spirit with the person we have sinned with. This is a terrible thing. It leads to God giving up on us . The Bible say He gives us over to a reprobate mind. The dictionary defines this as one who is predestined to damnation – rejected by God and without hope of salvation – to abandon to eternal damnation.  Now the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.  And God both raised up the Lord and will also raise us up by His power. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not!  Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.”  But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.  Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?  For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s. I Corinthians 6:13-20

With the world the way it is today a person might find it very difficult or maybe even impossible to live a lifestyle that is separated sexually from everyone else. If this is not for you I urge you to seek  a soul mate and get married. Now there are people who have abstained from sex from birth. It is not necessary for every person to marry. Being single is not a sin. There are people who chose not  to have sexual relations for the Kingdom of God. They have chosen this lifestyle to further serve the cause of Christ and the church. There is a special place very close to God for people who take this path. After all the original inhabitants of heaven have never had sex. God Himself has many sons, but only one begotten son Jesus Christ. We don’t realize that there is a Man who sits by the right hand of God, and we are a chosen group of people. Chosen from many trillions of souls who reside throughout the universe.

Possibly the biggest revelation we need to discuss is why we were

placed here on this earth. We might say, “This is my life and I should be able to do as I please with it.” And that is certainly your choice. To be precise, that is why God placed us on this earth. To make a choice. If you so choose to live a secular life, enjoy yourself, because this life is it. Once you die, as far as you are concerned, life is over. On the other hand if you choose to try and live a godly life, then by the unmerited mercy of God through your faith that Jesus Christ was crucified, buried and resurrected from the dead, you shall inherit eternal life.  This plan of salvation belongs to God, and it is His intent to seek out those who wish to have a relationship with Him, just like a friend or family member. If we choose this lifestyle, we are no longer residents of earth. We are a body of people whose home is already located in heaven. This life is simply a training exercise for our future citizenship with God. We proceed through this life attempting to obtain a closeness with our Creator so that when we arrive at our future home, we will have already prepared ourselves for heavenly realities. The things that God asks us not to do are the same things He has chosen not to do Himself. With the tremendous vacuum of leaders on this earth, it is a blessing to follow the greatest Leader of all, Our Heavenly Father.

Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30

If you have been participating in sexual encounters that are against the will of God, I urge you to reconsider your lifestyle. Immoral behavior is the most destructive behavior. You are sinning against your own soul. You are damaged goods, and there is only one doctor who can save you. He is the Great Physician. He is not far off on some planet you have never heard of. He is right there inside of you waiting, wanting for you to call His name. Why else would He have gone to so much trouble if He didn’t love you. Why else would He have taken the beating and humiliation and suffered death for you. Why else would He have given you a will if He didn’t want to share a relationship with you, a friendship with you,  a overwhelming love for you. Why are we looking for love elsewhere. Isn’t He enough!  He is not aloof, He is not hard to find. He is reaching out for you with all His might.  His arm, hand and fingers are stretched out as far as they can go.  Reach out your hand to His. Take His hand and walk with Him. Confide in Him. Let Him heal your wounds.

I promise you these things I have spoken of are true. I have lived part of my life separated from God. I have suffered the same pain and misery you might be suffering right now. Ask, me and I will tell you I want to stand as a witness for Christ. I, myself, will testify before all who ask that I have found His yoke is easy and His burden is light.